Virtual Communities and Online Dating
Get Access Abstract Objectives The US Advisory Committee on Immunization Practices has recently recommended a new vaccine against herpes zoster (shingles) for routine use in adults aged ≥60 years. It is only visible to you. Early treatment of the initial infection and future recurrences is important to decrease the chance of passing the infection to others and reduce the risk of complications in yourself. H-YPE offers a herpes and HPV community that actually works based on real people and real experiences. Everyone feels the deep drive to find a romantic partner to share their life with, and herpes sufferers do not need to feel that their options are stymied, limited, or cloaked in shame regarding issues of having the disease, such as disclosure. The Herpes-only dating environment is free of stigma and has already become a popular dating service. He said “You should stick with me forever because no one is going to want you now.” Yep, that was about the worst thing anyone has ever said to me, and it played on my biggest fears.
Fears of rejection, disappointment, and loss can run rampant in the minds and hearts of herpes sufferers when letting potential loved ones know that they have the virus. Likewise, attempting to date and find romance can be scary and even daunting. In multivariate analyses, older age was the only characteristic significantly associated with higher time trade-off values. ~ Moreover, having herpes can be viewed similarly to any multitude of common characteristics that can help bind two people closer together, such as religious preferences, cultural identities, lifestyle practices, hobbies, and the like. So, the incredibly vast and multi-layered world of virtual dating and online herpes communities is an ideal setting for meeting potential dates and life partners also living with herpes. Further, the cloak of any perceived shame and isolation can be lifted away when viewing dating with herpes. That is, herpes is a characteristic and not a negative, all-encompassing identity.
As it has grown, MPWH has worked to help users feel more comfortable while dating. I hate to say it but it would of been a deal breaker. And, with nearly 25,000 current members, the site boasts that their community is growing rapidly. On their homepage, a decree reads that “HMates.com was created for people with H, by people with H, and is staffed by volunteers with H, so we relate.” So, this site provides a positive, caring platform for herpes sufferers to meet and browse available singles who also have herpes and/or HPV. In addition, the site provides valuable medical information, privacy features, photo galleries, chat rooms, live video feed, and advanced search options. It is important to add that the site also emphasizes that the community is available for people solely looking for friendship, as well as people looking for romantic relationships. It is time to step out of any self-imposed or socially garnered darkness in regards to finding companionship.
The doors of disclosure (and any other perceived limitations of having and living with herpes) do not have to control your ability to find acceptance and love in the massive world around you.